My Story Supporting My daughter with BPD caused by a childhood trauma

Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?

Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?by: Sami WardPublished on: 05/10/2026

The 9pm "it's all your fault" text, and the two ways to answer it. Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse? For mums of a young adult with BPD, EUPD or emotional dysregulation.

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Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?

Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.

Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.by: Sami WardPublished on: 07/09/2026

Why setting a boundary with your young adult can feel like betrayal, why it isn't, and three gentle boundaries you can try this week. Honest support for exhausted mums.

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Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.

A is for Anger: Why They Save Their Worst for You

A is for Anger: Why They Save Their Worst for Youby: Sami WardPublished on: 31/08/2026

Why our young people aim their rage at us, why it still hurts, and what to do with the anger you're not allowed to feel. You're not a bad mum. 💙

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A is for Anger: Why They Save Their Worst for You

What Monday Night Taught Me About Trying to Fix Pain

What Monday Night Taught Me About Trying to Fix Painby: Sami WardPublished on: 01/06/2026

When your child struggles while you're away and you don't find out until days later, the guilt, the fear, and what it taught one mum about fixing pain.

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What Monday Night Taught Me About Trying to Fix Pain